When Mothers Use the Children to Hurt!

It has been a very painful experience watching the children suffer the agony and torment as pawns in a game intended to hurt the one who loves them the most. As a parent our purpose in life is to love and protect your children. It is our responsibility to do so. We are to die protecting our young if need be. It is instinctual it is not something that we learn in a book or an option.

So when a child is born to a woman who is defective, and who has no instincts to protect and care, while continually hurting and neglecting the children, it should not only be expected but understood, that the parent who is not defective will do what he is suppose to do instinctively, and that is to care for, and protect his children from anyone that harms them even if it is their own mother.

It goes against nature to force a parent to have to watch their child being abused for no other reason than the abuser has rights. Abusers should have no rights to their children. We are becoming a society of abusers because it is allowed, and even encouraged allowing the abusers to continue to abuse and to create more abusers in the aftermath.

When are the courts going to recognize that not every mother or every father is wired correctly. More and more women are defective. More and more women are hurting their children and for no reason other than because they can.

Sitting by and witnessing a child who was a loving bright and perfect child grow up to become a manipulative, scamming, conniving, teenager living a dangerous life because of it, and knowing she didn’t have to become what she is becoming, and that it could have been prevented is a troubling feeling. Knowing you were helpless to stop it doesn’t make it OK or make it where you feel OK about it.

All that is left is to pray that by Gods Grace she will find her way free and learn to love herself and love someone else someday. And to find someone to love her without her abusing him, as she has learned from her mother. May the cycle end one day.

The sad thing is she is going to be 14 in a couple of weeks and it looks like the only hope for her is once she grows up and becomes a women, and makes the choice to find out why she is so miserable, and has been all her life. Whats really sad about this is that women are usually in there 40’s and 50’s before they reach this stage, so that means she still has a good 30 to 40 years to suffer when it could have been avoided when she was just three years old. And in those 30 or 40 years there will be her children who will ultimately be effected and the cycle goes on.

That makes me cry, it makes me angry, it is outrageous. There is no excuse for this. When are the courts and the laws going to change? When will the children come first?


About sweetcardomom

I am a mother, grandmother and advocate for those suffering from the torment of emotional abuse regardless of gender, or who the abuser is. Emotional abuse can come from anyone around you whether personal or professional. Parents, spouses, lovers, teachers, siblings, co-workers, bosses, and even your therapist. I am a survivor and have grown a lot during the past few months. The struggle continues and so do I. Hoping to make a difference "One Person At A Time" ~ sweetcardomom
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3 Responses to When Mothers Use the Children to Hurt!

  1. unburden says:

    An abusive rotten mother is what I have. At least that the person she was back when I was a child until at age 15 I took a knife and threatened to kill her as she sat on the couch if she wouldnt stop abusing me.

    My mother attended Parents Anonymous and went to counseling to control her rage and hatred. I do not know what she was diagnosed with if anything. I do know that she is still alive and is involved in my life and my childs life.

    I hate my mom for what she did to me but I also love her for not letting me totally cut her out of my life. She called and wrote and took my own abuse of her for years on the off chance that I would learn to forgive.

    I am linking your blog and if you would like please do so to mine.


  2. Investigating for emotional abuse is really not an option in most cases that I am aware of. We were told years ago when reporting her to CPS that they would not even consider looking into it, and that the only way was if a professional called them such as a teacher, Doctor, or a clergy person.

    Sociopaths and Narcissists are very good at putting on that “I’m a good mother” act in public. It is behind closed doors that the child’s world is turned upside down and becomes a living hell.

    How many times in the News do we hear a neighbor say “he/she” was such a loving parent, and such a great person” while in shock over a horrifying discovery of something heinous going on right under their noses. Way to many to count.

    And how many times has the loving parent reported the abuse to the courts only to end up losing all rights to their child/children, charged with parental alienation, and having to watchthe abusive parent gain full custody because of it? Again far to many to count.

    So again the protective parent is in a legal dilemma and is put in a position of having to sit and watch and pray that the child/children survives. Because the only hope left for the child is the time spent away from the situation for what ever little time he/she has with the normal loving parent before going back to the defective parent. And the hope is that, that is enough to keep the child/children going with knowing there is and end when they are old enough to choose.

  3. I don’t really know how to blog yet, but I am thankful for your site and the emphasis on emotional abuse. I will write more later.

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