Comments for Sweetcardomom's Weblog and Resource Site http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com ON EMOTIONAL ABUSE RECOVERY AND HEALING Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:47:42 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Pass the anti-bullying HEALTHY WORKPLACE BILL ~ In the US by David Turnbull http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/2008/11/02/pass-the-anti-bullying-healthy-workplace-bill-in-the-us/#comment-7296 David Turnbull Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:47:42 +0000 http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/?p=692#comment-7296 This is absolutlety the worst thing anyone can go through! Kudo's to Mary for seeing this through! (please contact me) My advice, Sue, if you can, do not file workers compensation. It will bring you more misery than it's worth. The worst out-come, personally is PTSD (which I have) and no one will understand what's happening to you. You will go nuts without the right diagnosis and the right treatment, and the right attorney. I have been there and am there. when it comes to work, we are 30 years behind the rest of the world. I would be happy to talk to anyone at : cat_barf@sbcglobal.net I did receive a sigificant award from the city I work for, and I will be glad to help where I can there, but it's not about the money is it? You will be damaged for life if you don't see this through. If there has been some kind of injustuice. And if recognized as such, you will never recover. Once your sense of justice has been damaged & your integrity has been blown to bits, it will become extemely hard to become whole again. If your integrity has been blown to pieces - good luck - you will probably never be the same. I am sorry to say this, but your mind/body changes, and there is nothing you can do about it. Your body/mind has been in high-gear for so long, it does not recognize your old self - you're screwed. But try and convince any court of this and you're fighting a forty year-old battle. Been there - done that. If I can help any one - PLEASE CONTACT ME THROUGH MARY. I will be glad to explain what's happening. You're not losing your mind, it just feels that way, but don't expect others to understandstand what you're going through, it's futile & they will only tolerate it for so long. They cannot understand it & I don't care how long or hard you try to explain it. It aways comes back to " just get over it." Dave - David - Mary Kirk - you know me, please contact me! Dave - This is absolutlety the worst thing anyone can go through! Kudo’s to Mary for seeing this through! (please contact me) My advice, Sue, if you can, do not file workers compensation. It will bring you more misery than it’s worth. The worst out-come, personally is PTSD (which I have) and no one will understand what’s happening to you. You will go nuts without the right diagnosis and the right treatment, and the right attorney. I have been there and am there. when it comes to work, we are 30 years behind the rest of the world. I would be happy to talk to anyone at : cat_barf@sbcglobal.net I did receive a sigificant award from the city I work for, and I will be glad to help where I can there, but it’s not about the money is it? You will be damaged for life if you don’t see this through. If there has been some kind of injustuice. And if recognized as such, you will never recover. Once your sense of justice has been damaged & your integrity has been blown to bits, it will become extemely hard to become whole again. If your integrity has been blown to pieces – good luck – you will probably never be the same. I am sorry to say this, but your mind/body changes, and there is nothing you can do about it. Your body/mind has been in high-gear for so long, it does not recognize your old self – you’re screwed. But try and convince any court of this and you’re fighting a forty year-old battle. Been there – done that. If I can help any one – PLEASE CONTACT ME THROUGH MARY. I will be glad to explain what’s happening. You’re not losing your mind, it just feels that way, but don’t expect others to understandstand what you’re going through, it’s futile & they will only tolerate it for so long. They cannot understand it & I don’t care how long or hard you try to explain it. It aways comes back to ” just get over it.”

Dave -

David – Mary Kirk – you know me, please contact me! Dave -

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]]> Comment on EMOTIONALLY ABUSED MEN by Kelli Garner http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/chapters/emotionally-abused-men/#comment-7274 Kelli Garner Sat, 26 Sep 2009 07:40:48 +0000 http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/?page_id=170#comment-7274 Thats very good to know... thanks Thats very good to know… thanks

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]]> Comment on EMOTIONALLY ABUSED MEN by Bill Bartmann http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/chapters/emotionally-abused-men/#comment-7270 Bill Bartmann Mon, 21 Sep 2009 18:59:53 +0000 http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/?page_id=170#comment-7270 Hey good stuff...keep up the good work! :) I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but, I just wanted to make a quick comment to say I'm glad I found your blog. Thanks,) A definite great read.. <a href="http://wiki.hudson-ci.org/display/~bill-bartmann" rel="nofollow">..</a> <a href="http://wiki.jfrog.org/confluence/display/~bill-bartmann" rel="nofollow">-Bill-Bartmann</a> Hey good stuff…keep up the good work! :) I read a lot of blogs on a daily basis and for the most part, people lack substance but, I just wanted to make a quick comment to say I’m glad I found your blog. Thanks,)

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]]> Comment on EMOTIONALLY ABUSED MEN by Bill Bartmann http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/chapters/emotionally-abused-men/#comment-7265 Bill Bartmann Fri, 04 Sep 2009 06:55:46 +0000 http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/?page_id=170#comment-7265 Excellent site, keep up the good work Excellent site, keep up the good work

]]> Comment on EMOTIONALLY ABUSED MEN by sweetcardomom http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/chapters/emotionally-abused-men/#comment-7264 sweetcardomom Thu, 03 Sep 2009 00:52:28 +0000 http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/?page_id=170#comment-7264 From Lovefraud Blog Sunday August 30 The Love Script of Sociopaths "It is likely you are reading this because a sociopath said “I love you” and you believed him/her. You also probably thought that when the sociopath said “I love you” he/she used these words as you do, to express a sense of intimacy, passion and commitment. However, what a sociopath says and what a sociopath does are so different it can be crazy making. In the aftermath of a relationship with a sociopath, former romantic partners are left to wonder, “Just what was going on in that person’s mind?” Please read the article in its entirety at http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/08/30/the-love-scripts-of-sociopaths/ Anyone who has loved a Sociopath knows all about this. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a women we've all been fooled. The trick is not to be fooled again. From Lovefraud Blog
Sunday August 30

The Love Script of Sociopaths

“It is likely you are reading this because a sociopath said “I love you” and you believed him/her. You also probably thought that when the sociopath said “I love you” he/she used these words as you do, to express a sense of intimacy, passion and commitment. However, what a sociopath says and what a sociopath does are so different it can be crazy making.

In the aftermath of a relationship with a sociopath, former romantic partners are left to wonder, “Just what was going on in that person’s mind?”

Please read the article in its entirety at http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/08/30/the-love-scripts-of-sociopaths/

Anyone who has loved a Sociopath knows all about this. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a women we’ve all been fooled. The trick is not to be fooled again.

]]> Comment on EMOTIONALLY ABUSED MEN by sweetcardomom http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/chapters/emotionally-abused-men/#comment-7262 sweetcardomom Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:44:05 +0000 http://sweetcardomom.wordpress.com/?page_id=170#comment-7262 Thank you Scott for your comment. You are not alone and it is so important for men in your situation to hear other men's stories. It sounds as if you know what you need to do, and that's good. There comes a time when enough is enough and one realizes that it's time to lookout for oneself. One of the biggest hindrances is guilt. My son stayed in a relationship way to long because like you, he made her mom a promise that he would take care of her, and her (at the time) unborn child ( which was not his). He stayed in that relationship trying to help protect her daughter from her wrath, until he couldn't do it any longer. I can't tell you what to do but I always tell people to listen to their gut and do what they know they need to do. Given the extreme mood swings it is possible that there is a medical condition that could be helped by medication. I don't know if that is anything that you and her have looked into. But even if that is the case it would only help if she is truly wanting the help, and is willing to do whatever it takes to make your life together better. If she is not willing to seek help which most abusers aren't because they don't think they are doing anything wrong, then you need to think about what is best for YOU and not worry about anyone else. My best advise is to take charge of your life and look out for your mental and physical health before it destroys you! Abuse is not love, there is no place for abuse in a relationship whether the relationship is a couple, a parent child, a teacher student, or between friends. It is never OK to abuse one another. I hope you find the answers you need. Remember you are not alone. Thank you Scott for your comment. You are not alone and it is so important for men in your situation to hear other men’s stories. It sounds as if you know what you need to do, and that’s good. There comes a time when enough is enough and one realizes that it’s time to lookout for oneself. One of the biggest hindrances is guilt. My son stayed in a relationship way to long because like you, he made her mom a promise that he would take care of her, and her (at the time) unborn child ( which was not his). He stayed in that relationship trying to help protect her daughter from her wrath, until he couldn’t do it any longer.

I can’t tell you what to do but I always tell people to listen to their gut and do what they know they need to do. Given the extreme mood swings it is possible that there is a medical condition that could be helped by medication. I don’t know if that is anything that you and her have looked into. But even if that is the case it would only help if she is truly wanting the help, and is willing to do whatever it takes to make your life together better. If she is not willing to seek help which most abusers aren’t because they don’t think they are doing anything wrong, then you need to think about what is best for YOU and not worry about anyone else. My best advise is to take charge of your life and look out for your mental and physical health before it destroys you! Abuse is not love, there is no place for abuse in a relationship whether the relationship is a couple, a parent child, a teacher student, or between friends. It is never OK to abuse one another. I hope you find the answers you need. Remember you are not alone.

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