Rilya Alert!!!! Please help us locate Carlos Missing 2 year old

CARLOS ANTHONY HUDDLESTON

Case Type: Non Family Abduction
DOB: Nov 4, 2006 Sex: Male

Missing Date: Oct 17, 2009 Race: Black
Age Now: 2 Height: 2′6″ (76 cm)
Missing City: NASHVILLE Weight: 25 lbs (11 kg)
Missing State : TN Hair Color: Brown
Missing Country: United States Eye Color: Black
Case Number: NCMC1133623

Circumstances: Carlos was last seen on October 17, 2009. He may be in the company of an adult female. Carlos was last seen wearing a blue shirt and blue jean shorts.

Metropolitan Nashville Police Department (Tennessee) 1-615-862-7400

What do all Sociopaths have in common?

In an article on Lovefraud this morning Steve Becker explained in his words what he feels ALL sociopaths have in common. From my experiences I would agree with what he has to say. If anyone has anything they would like to add please feel free to do so.

According to Steve these are the traits that they all share. They are emotionally shallow, they lack loyalty, remorse, compassion, and shame, while they are audacious, liars and deceivers.

Please read what Steve Becker LCSW has to say in his article on Lovefraud “What all sociopaths have in common” @ www.lovefraud.com

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To often the Abuser gets custody of the abused in the courts. This is so common the courts should know this. The courts need to listen to the children. It is NOT ONLY FATHERS who do this Narcissistic Mothers use the children as well.

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Child Custody and Visitation Decisions in Domestic Violence Cases: Legal Trends, Research Findings, and Recommendations

Click below to read full article

Daniel G. Saunders

It may be hard to believe an abusive partner can ever make good on his threat to take the children away from his victim. After all, he has a history of violent behavior and she almost never does. Unfortunately, a surprising number of battered women lose custody of their children. The actual number is not known and offenders appear to be no more successful in gaining custody than non-offenders (Liss & Stahly, 1993). However, violence against one parent by another is often considered in custody-determination proceedings (Family Violence Project, 1995). This document describes some of the legal and cultural trends surrounding custody and visitation decisions and the social science evidence supporting a need to consider domestic violence in these decisions.

Legal Trends

General Views About Joint Custody

Parents Most at Risk for Physical and Emotional Abuse of a Child

Factors Related to Risk to the Children

Parental Separation.

Parents’ Childhood Victimization.

Parents’ Psychological Characteristics.

Interventions for the Abuser.

Recommendations for Custody and Visitation

Thank you Claudine for your post this is a great resource for me right now and I’m sure for many others as well.http://new.vawnet.org/category/Main_Doc.php?docid=371

If you have had the unfortunate experience of having a relationship with a Narcissist Here is a great site to visit.

I found this site to be a great resource.  Linda Martinez-Lewi Ph.D. and author of the book Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life. Has put together a great blog explaining the Narcissist and things you can do to deal with the Narcissist in your life or some one you know.

I personally found her post Narcissistic Mothers Endanger and Abandon Their Daughters to be right on target with a couple of key women in my families lives. I have tried to explain these women to people and it’s difficult for people to really understand, however Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. explains them 100% accurately in understandable terms.

So please take a moment to check out her site it is a wealth of information and I’m sure you will be happy you did “>http://blog.thenarcissistinyourlife.com/

Donna Andersen FROM LOVE FRAUD BRINGS UP IMPORTANT QUESTIONS ON WHEN SHOULD A PARENT’S “PARENTAL RIGHTS” BE TAKEN AWAY

This is a question that has  baffled many of us when we can so clearly see that the system is continually failing the children. How many times do we see children being forced into relationships with a parent regardless of the damage that parent has caused the child. Day after day we hear of children being abused, raped and murdered by a parent.  In this article from Saturday September 19, 2009
Donna asks important questions regarding this issue using Phillip Garrido as an example!

http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2009/09/19/phillip-garrido-father/

After the sociopath is gone: No Contact begins in my head (from lovefaud one of my favorite sites)

This article is a perfect example of what goes on inside the head of someone who has been in a relationship with a sociopath once the relationship is over. The mind can be our worse enemy if we don’t take control of our thoughts. I found this particular post to be a perfect example of what effort has to be put into taking back control. No contact in the physical sense is the only way of getting free that’s the easy part. Getting him/her out of your thoughts that is the hardest part of all.

From lovefraud.com

Good information on bullying from the U of Michigan Health Systems

Bullying is not going away but in fact getting worse. As time goes on we are realizing the devastating effects of bullying today. With the new technologies available to us today it has created easier access to targets and the ability to be anonymous making bullying a deadly crime. Suicides are on the rise and parents and families are devastated. The University of Michigan has some good information and resources listed under its Health Topics and it is a good resource.

Bullying is not just a childhood problem. School Bullies grow to be workplace Bullies, Corporate Bullies, Professional Bullies of all sorts, but the child victims are effected throughout their adult lives as well. Parents please do not take this subject lightly. If your child is being bullied at school please listen to your child and help and support him/her. Please take immediate action, your child can’t do it alone.

University of Michigan Health Systems website ~ on Bullying

The Narcissist’s Commandments

Visit Lovefraud,com one of my favorite sites on Sociopathy and read The Narcissit’s Commandments
written by Steve Becker, LCSW. I’m Sure the list can go on feel free to add to it and see just how long the list can get.

***Attention Parents who co-parent children with a pathological parent!!!!!!!******

The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education Home of ” How to spot a dangerous man before you get envolved & ” Women who love Psychopaths’ books, is working a new project and one close to my heart. Please take a minute to take this important survey so Sandra Brown can complete her project to help all these poor kids that are being victimized and abused because the courts are not prepared to deal with the important issues of pathological parenting.

Thank you in advance! ~sweetcardomom

The Institute’s Next Writing Project

We are currently researching about the effects of pathologicals on their children. This includes Parental Alientation Syndrome and other negative effects that pathology has on young developing children.

We will begin working on this in January so we need as many of you as possible who are co-parenting or a better description of it is ‘parallel parenting’ to take our survey so we have plenty of info to write from.

Not enough info — no new product!

Help us make a dent in the court system as we study the effects of the pathological’s parenting style on children!

Take our survey so we can document what these people DO to children!

Here’s the link:
http://www.saferelationships.com/sandradocs/PathologicalParentingSurvey2sr.doc